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How patterns pass down, and how they stop.

Researchers have followed families from a parent's story, to how the parent cares, to how the baby acts at one year, to how the child acts at six. The match is real, and it is not fate.

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These are tendencies across groups of families. They do not tell you what happened in yours, and they do not label anyone. The last step of every path shows the way out.

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Two pictures behind the research

Comfort beats food Drawing of a baby monkey holding on to a soft cloth mother, while a bare wire mother with a bottle stands to the side.

Earlier care, brighter brain waves Schematic bar drawing with three bars. The tall bar is children never in an institution, the middle bar is foster-care children, the short bar is children who stayed in the institution. Never in an Moved to a Stayed in an

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This is a map of research on groups of families. It is not therapy or a diagnosis, and it does not predict any one family.