Rel8r
Attachment Signal Intelligence

Understand your patterns.
Communicate without spiraling.

Rel8r reads attachment signals in real conversations. No diagnostic labels. No shame scores. Just the signal — and what to do with it.

Get Rel8r How it works
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 INFO Session initialized — Rel8r Local v0.1.0
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 STATE Engine mode: OBSERVATION
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 ACTIVE Arousal band: LOW — full interface available
01 / System

How it works

Rel8r ingests your message threads, reads attachment signals, and surfaces actionable intelligence — not diagnostic labels.

Signal Detection

Anxiety, avoidance, activation, and deactivation signals identified from message latency, language patterns, and turn-taking dynamics.

Real-Time Dashboard

Arousal band monitoring, Master Your 8 pillar tracking, and calibration unit allocation — all in a matte-black control surface.

Coaching Panels

Diorama-style teaching scenes for specific situations: push-pull cycles, vulnerability hangovers, left-on-read, and more.

Privacy-First

All processing runs locally. Your message data never leaves your machine. Obsidian vault stays on your filesystem.

02 / Diorama Library

Teaching panels

Each panel is a diorama scene — a physical miniature photographed under harsh flash, representing a real attachment dynamic.

Secure interdependence panel
Secure
Interdependence without enmeshment. Two figures maintain connection with distinct spatial boundaries.
Anxious trigger spike panel
Anxious
Trigger spike — the moment uncertainty converts to activation. One figure reaches; the other turns away.
Avoidant pull-away panel
Avoidant
Deactivation sequence — distance as regulation. One figure exits the frame; the other remains center.
Fearful-avoidant push-pull panel
Fearful-Avoidant
Push-pull cycle — simultaneous approach and retreat. Figures face each other at maximum tension distance.
Communicating needs panel
Repair
Communicating needs without collapse. One figure extends a hand; the other receives without withdrawal.
Breakup grief panel
Grief
Breakup grief — the empty chair. One figure sits alone; the other is present only as shadow.
03 / Purchase

Get Rel8r

One-time purchase. No subscription. No tracking. No data leaves your machine.

Local

$49 / one-time

For individuals who want to understand their own patterns.

  • Desktop application (macOS, Windows, Linux)
  • Telegram integration for live coaching
  • Local DuckDB database
  • Obsidian vault export
  • All 20+ teaching panels
Buy Local
Recommended

Local + Cloud

$149 / one-time

For power users who want backup, sync, and advanced analytics.

  • Everything in Local
  • Cloud backup & sync
  • Advanced relational metrics
  • Priority support channel
  • Early access to new panels
Buy Local + Cloud 
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 INFO Purchase flow: email-initiated, no tracker
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 INFO Payment: Stripe invoice → manual fulfillment
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 NOTE No gtag, no pixel, no Mixpanel — privacy by default
04 / Manifesto

What Rel8r is not

Not a diagnostic tool. Not a dating app. Not a personality quiz. Not a therapist.

Rel8r is a signal-reading system for people who want to understand their own attachment patterns without being labeled, scored, or shamed.

We do not say "you are anxious." We say: "The signal reads activation. Here's what that means in this context."

2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 INFO No diagnostic language in copy
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 INFO No score resets, no red-X failure markers
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 INFO No blocking alerts — non-blocking log lines only
2026-07-19T00:23:00-04:00 INFO No "coins," no scarcity gating — Calibration Units allocated