Rel8r is a local-first attachment coach. Send a screenshot from your phone; your computer thinks privately; you get one calm, secure next move.
Dating apps, texts, DMs, and social feeds give you likes, views, delays, silence, boosts, matches, read receipts, and rejection loops faster than your attachment system can metabolize them.
That does not mean every platform is malicious. It means your nervous system is being asked to interpret high-speed relational data without a calm layer in between.
Rel8r is that layer. It helps you pause before the spiral, name the attachment-shaped pattern that may be showing up, and choose a secure next move, without treating you or the other person like a diagnosis.
Rel8r works inside Telegram on your phone. The heavy thinking happens on your own computer. Nothing leaves your machine, except the Telegram message itself.
You see something that activates you: a delayed reply, a short answer, a mixed signal, a read receipt with no reply. You screenshot it or paste the message into Telegram from any app: dating apps, iMessage, WhatsApp, Instagram, wherever the spiral starts.
The Telegram bot is only the intake surface. It does not analyze, store, or judge. It receives the image and passes it to your own computer.
The Rel8r runtime on your desktop downloads the screenshot from Telegram. It strips EXIF metadata, GPS coordinates, device identifiers, and anything that could identify you or your contact. The redacted image is the only thing that gets analyzed.
This happens locally. JobCoffin never sees the screenshot, the message, or the coaching response.
The runtime reads attachment-shaped behavioral signals, not vibes, not astrology. It measures initiation asymmetry, text-volume ratio, linguistic style matching, response latency relative to your baseline, and inter-message pacing.
It names the arousal band: LOW, MODERATE, HIGH, or OVERLOADED. If you are HIGH or OVERLOADED, the interface collapses to a single calm Anchor Window. You do not get more options when you are already flooded.
Coach Hype, the persona in your ear, validates the underlying need, then separates what the signal actually says from what your nervous system is adding. "We have a delay, not a verdict."
The voice adapts to your attachment style. Anxious: soothe first, then one clean consistency check. Avoidant: regulate first, then a secure bid. Fearful-avoidant: find center, question the story, pause the action. Secure: reinforce the pattern, light teaching.
Rel8r offers exactly two low-demand options. A Regulatory Pause: "I notice my phone is triggering high arousal. I wonder if stepping away for ten minutes makes space." A Low-Demand Script: "I noticed your day was busy. I wonder if we sync tomorrow instead."
No commands, no clinical labels, no "you are anxious." Just observations and options. You always choose the move.
Every session writes a Master Your 8 artifact into your local Obsidian-compatible vault: the signal, the arousal band, the secure move you chose, and the lesson. Markdown and JSON files you can open, move, or delete.
Over time, the patterns start to live in you, not just in the software. That is earned security.
INFO Phone = intake surface only
INFO Desktop runtime = private analysis layer
INFO Vault = local Obsidian-compatible Markdown/JSON
INFO No vendor database of your relationships
Screenshot, paste, or forward from any app. Inline buttons and callback handling so you do not have to remember commands.
A provider-agnostic runtime on your machine. Simulation mode first, verify the install before adding any Telegram bot token or LLM key.
Contacts, threads, consensus events, recent Telegram history, export, and deletion review. Your data, your filesystem.
20+ approved diorama panels delivered through Telegram. Each one is a staged miniature scene that teaches a specific attachment dynamic.
Every coaching loop logs an artifact: signal, arousal band, secure move, lesson. Earned security made visible.
Every package ships with a manifest of every file and a SHA-256 checksum. You can verify what you downloaded.
Apps like Winggg, YourMove AI, RIZZ AI, and CupidAI read your screenshots on their servers and hand you copy-paste lines. Rel8r reads the same screenshot on your own computer and teaches you why a secure move works.
Each panel is a staged miniature diorama scene, a physical teaching prop for a real attachment dynamic. The figures are archetypes, not you, not your contact.
One-time purchase. No subscription. No tracking. No data leaves your machine.
$49 / one-time
For individuals who want to understand their own patterns.
$149 / one-time
For power users who want backup, sync, and advanced analytics.
INFO Purchase flow: Stripe payment link, no tracker INFO Payment: Stripe Checkout → manual fulfillment NOTE No gtag, no pixel, no Mixpanel, privacy by default
Not a diagnostic tool, not a dating app, not a personality quiz, not a therapist.
Rel8r is a signal-reading system for people who want to understand their own attachment patterns without being labeled, scored, or shamed.
We do not say "you are anxious." We say: "The signal reads activation. Here's what that means in this context."
INFO No diagnostic language in copy INFO No score resets, no red-X failure markers INFO No blocking alerts, non-blocking log lines only INFO No "coins," no scarcity gating, Calibration Units allocated